In this interview from the podcast Spiraling Consciousness, I talk with Rev. Kelly Isola about the truth that life is a deep and profound journey to the far reaches of our own authenticity, and that we are each an ever-changing, growing and developing being designed to learn and apply new skills as we meet life’s challenges.
By Victoria Wilson-Jones, M.S., Clinical C.Ht.
My garden calls to me. Time to have my hands deep in the soil, the warmth of the sun on my skin and the feeling of the breeze whispering to me. Spirit manifests in all life forms. The call of the sacred can be found in many places speaking quietly in their own languages. When I attend this call, answering with my presence, I am taken into a new level of peace joy and communion.
No matter how stuck, depleted and isolated we feel the Source has given us nature to help us heal and reconnect. Just being in nature for twenty minutes will move a person into an alpha brain wave state, that wonderful space between waking and sleep where prayer and meditation transforms us. Wendell Berry speaks to the healing force of nature so beautifully in his poem, “The Peace of Wild Things”. May it remind us all of how generous Spirit is, placing us in the midst of the beauty and healing force of nature.
The Peace of Wild Things
by Wendell Berry
When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
By Victoria Wilson-Jones, MS“Love yourself!” “Nurture yourself!” These suggestions seem to be everywhere, in magazines, on the radio and on innumerable talk shows. What does it actually mean and why should any of us bother? One of my favorite philosophers, Ken Wilber says the most important part of the self you will develop is your “self sense”. It’s this “self sense” that we use to navigate the river of life. The time and attention that we give to developing a strong, healthy, self respecting “self sense” is what self love and self nurturing are.
In all of the years we spend in school no one teaches a course on how to develop and maintain self esteem. For many of us it is the reason we seek out counseling, therapy or life coaching. We need someone to help us create a structure that cultivates the qualities that we want to experience within ourselves. The qualities we need to navigate the river of our own life.
Here are some simple awareness exercises that you can explore. They will begin to help you develop self awareness and self respect, the corner stones of self love.
Awareness: When you talk to yourself, someone vulnerable inside of you is listening to everything you say, and believing it. Spend a few days taking notes on how you talk to yourself. As you reflect on these notes ask yourself:
- Is what I am saying to myself kind?
- Is what I am saying supportive?
- Does my self talk raise or lower my sense of self worth?
- Would I talk to a child, a friend, or a lover this way?
Rewrite your self talk. Be respectful, kind, considerate and supportive when you talk to yourself. Speak to yourself the way you would want others to speak to you. Make it your business to correct you negative self talk. Listen for it, catch it and reframe your statements to yourself. We all function better when people are giving us positive feedback and supportive comments. Do this for yourself!
So many of us are self critical, we have a long list of our short comings and yet very few of us can name what is right about ourselves. Make a list of what you like about yourself. Keep adding to it as you think of new things.
Here is a part of my list as an example:
- Love to read
- Love music
- My brown eyes
These may seem like simple exercises… however, knowing that you do like things about yourself helps to balance out the critical self talk. Reframing how we speak to ourselves changes how we feel about ourselves. Lasting change happens from the inside out. Learning to talk to yourself in positive ways will change how you feel about yourself. This is “self love” in action.
Feel free to write to me with any questions you may have or to share an experience.