Affirmations are powerful tools that can help you hold a more relaxed and successful focus. We all have internal dialogue, and most of the time. We are simply so used to it that we don’t recognize it as the self talk that it is. If your inner dialogue is self-defeating, negative, or critical, you are not creating the best environment for yourself. Keep in mind that whatever you say to yourself, there is a part of you on the inside believing everything she/he hears. You are continually defining yourself and your reality. Minute by minute, self-talk by self-talk.

By using positive affirmations, you can create an environment inside yourself that encourages and supports you in all of your endeavors. Ask yourself, “Do I do better when people are positive and supportive, pointing out my strengths and skills, or when people are critical of me?” If your answer is positive, then affirmations can be helpful to you.

Replacing a negative thought with one of the positive one can enhance your well-being and the quality of your life. Here is a list of some affirmations that may work for you:

  • I am focused and capable.
  • I am constantly learning and developing skills.
  • I am relaxed and focused in this moment.
  • I listen and speak from a centered and relaxed space.
  • I enjoy my life.
  • I have everything I need to be my best.
  • I share my insights and I am valued.
  • I appreciate my own growth and authenticity.
  • I am growing in every area of life.
  • I value others and they feel it.
  • I give and receive love from the people that are important in my life.
  • I have the resources to handle anything that comes my way.
  • I am at a place in life that is filled with wonder and possibilities.
  • I can handle [insert challenging situation here] gracefully and successfully.

Affirmations can be used in several ways:

  • Say them aloud – This is best done in private. Repeat your chosen affirmation aloud several times. Listen to them as you say them. Really take them in as a truth.
  • Write your affirmation down – Write it several times. Read what you’ve written. Then write it again.
  • Repeat your affirmation in your mind – Repeat it a few times, generating more energy and more belief each time you repeat it. Notice how you feel about what you’re saying. Relax any resistance and really let the new truth in.

Anything we hear long enough we begin to believe! Most people feel silly when they start using an affirmation. Just trust that this will change. Anything new usually feels odd or silly. Just be sure to notice results over time, and that will help those feelings to subside, being replaced by the excitement you’ll have over the new power you have over your perception of your self, others, and the world around you.

Want to write an affirmation of your own? GREAT!!!

A few basic guidelines for writing an effective affirmation:

  • Keep it in present time – Write as if the quality or feeling is already present and already an integrated part of you.
  • Keep it simple – Make sure it is a positive statement. Try not to use negative words like “not” and “don’t.” Put a positive spin on each of your statements.
  • Use words that you relate to – Try to use phrases and words that are already meaningful to you. Introducing foreign concepts or vocabulary will diminish the effectiveness of the affirmation.

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